My Millennial Marriage:: Introduction
My Millennial Marriage is a series of blog posts that I have decided to do over the month of August. This is the only topic that I will cover the entire month, so there will be no product posts, or lifestyle posts, just simply talking about marriages. Which says a lot, since I help provide for my family when I write product posts.
Over the past year, several of my millennial friends have already gotten divorced. I don’t know all the reasons behind why these marriages ended, but I was absolutely heartbroken. As I watched families get torn apart, I felt God telling me to move.
I have little to no qualifications or education to be talking to you about marriage. To be completely transparent, my own marriage is less than perfect. All I can do is ask you to trust me, and to trust that God has given me the words to write this blog. Over the month of August, I will no longer be just praying over my marriage, but I will be praying for your marriage as well.
Speaking About My Marriage
I want to take a few steps back and actually tell you about my marriage, so you know where I am coming from…
My husband, Benjamin and I have been married for six and a half years. We got married at the end of our junior year in college at the age of 21, after dating for a year and a half. Our “original” plans were to get engaged during our senior year and then get married. Those plans quickly changed after we discovered we were expecting a baby boy. I honestly wouldn’t have done it any other way. We now have three little ones ages: 1, 4, and 5. Our life is crazy and imperfect but our love for one another is indescribable.
Our marriage has had its struggles. My husband had a pornography addiction for the first three years of marriage. We have and still currently struggle with my husband’s job as a police officer. Our financials are less than ideal, for we are a paycheck-to-paycheck family with a dismal savings account. We had an unexpected pregnancy that ended with miscarriage, that left me with a lot of struggles and guilt. I have very high anxiety and went through postpartum depression after Olive was born. So like I said, we are less than perfect.
My Marriage Goals and Resources
Since Ben and I got married, I have been obsessed with marriage. There is always a new book in my Amazon cart. I’m not obsessed with having a perfect marriage because, let’s just be honest, that’s impossible. Marriage is two imperfect and sinful people coming together with all their junk to try and Netflix and chill for 50+ years together. So perfection will never be achieved.
My goal is to not get caught up in my own personal satisfaction and that my marriage can be a powerful example of the gospel. I want people to see my husband and me as a picture of God’s glory, for them to realize that WE ARE DIFFERENT and that we are ONE.
“We have the mind of Christ, we have the power of the Holy Spirit, we choose to die ourselves and love and forgive even when things get difficult. This would turn heads. This is what God wants for us as His people.” You and Me Forever by Francis Chan and Lisa Chan
I have a few books that are my favorite. Over the next 5 weeks (gosh, August is long) I will be referencing them often:
- You and Me Forever by Francis Chan and Lisa Chan
- Men Are Like Waffles Women Are Like Spaghetti by Bill and Pam Farrel
- The Beautiful Wife by Sandy Ralya
- Wife School by Julie Gordon
I’m so excited to be sharing my heart with you. Please don’t hesitate to comment a topic you would like addressed. Also, find me on Instagram and let me know how I can be praying for you and your marriage.