I Am 27 Years Old and 99% Sterile:: My Decision to have a Tubal Ligation


As my naked rear-end sat on the paper of my OBGYNs exam table after being checked for dilation the most uncomfortable debate session happened between me, myself and I.

I was debating on signing the consent form for my tubal ligation.

That wasn’t the only intense standoff that day. After I finally brought myself to sign my childbearing abilities away, my doctor began to double and triple check my decision. Making me question what I truly wanted. I’m sure this was typical protocol, especially considering my age.

Deciding to have a tubal ligation after/during my third C-section was one of the most difficult decisions I have ever had to make. Yes, three kids is plenty and I am very content in the size of our family. But I still struggled with the idea of completely committing.
Immediately when I signed that paper, I felt as though I signed my life away along with any unknown life, that I had yet to meet.

Thoughts were racing through my head. I began to think about the miscarriage I had two years prior. Then, I remembered a sweet friend from college whose son passed away way too young. I thought about my best friend and her babies in heaven and I then remembered the moment the doctors thought that my pregnancy with Olive was going to end with a miscarriage.

Why did all these thoughts circle my mind? I believe it was the fear of the unknown.

Olive’s pregnancy was a difficult one. Over and over again, I could be heard saying, I never want to be pregnant again. I had a major blood clot that had to be monitored and I found out at 35 weeks that my uterus was thinning and I was at high risk for a uterine rupture. At the time, my pregnancy was becoming stressful and I wasn’t sure if my body would make it.

We decided to deliver Olive at 38 weeks. My body did it, I made it through. The C-section procedure felt the same as my previous three and the recovery was surprisingly easy this time around.

My doctor was able to perform my tubal ligation during the C-section, so I can’t even pin point when they were preforming the procedure. The process of a tubal ligation includes severing the fallopian tube so that sperm can no longer travel and fertilize the egg.

I have had no known side effects from the procedure. However, this is the first baby that I have dealt with postpartum depression. I also feel like my periods came back a tad heavier…go me.

When I was deep in my postpartum depression, I blamed my husband for talking me into the tubal ligation. Looking at Olive made the fact of never having another baby again hard to handle. I ultimately knew that in my right state of mind, my husband and I made the correct decision for our family TOGETHER.

Deciding to have your tubes tied is an incredibly hard decision, here are the things I had to consider:

  • Do you want any more children?
  • Can your body withstand being pregnant again?
  • Do your religious beliefs support a tubal ligation?
  • Is your spouse in agreement?
  • Do you feel pressured to have a tubal ligation by your spouse?



  1. robin rue

    I had a c-section with my second son, but since I gave birth in a Catholic hospital, they wouldn’t do a tubal ligation on me. I ended up having a procedure in the doctor’s office called Essure, which blocked off my tubes so I can’t get pg. I knew after two kids that I was DONE!

    02 . Jan . 2018
  2. Krystal Butherus

    These are all great and important questions to consider when deciding on having a tubal ligation. It’s always important to do research on something as serious as this.

    02 . Jan . 2018
  3. Melissa Chapman

    It is always tough to make those big decisions that are permanent especially when it is your body. I think you know if the safety of your future might be at stake then you know if you did the righht thing.

    02 . Jan . 2018
  4. Amber Nelson

    Wow, it is a tough decision I am sure. My husband got the surgery to be “fixed”. I figured since I had the babies, it was his turn!

    02 . Jan . 2018
  5. Rebecca Bryant

    I decided to have one after losing our second child. It was the toughest choice ever but one I made anyways. thank you for sharing this it made me realized I’m not alone.

    02 . Jan . 2018
  6. Laura @ MommyDearest

    It’s always very tough when it comes to making decisions like this. My husband is on the list to be “fixed” as I figured if I pushed the babies out it’s his turn. Though even talking through that decision was difficult. The questions you pose are so valid.

    02 . Jan . 2018
  7. Karen Morse

    It’s definitely a tough decision to make especially when your heart isn’t fully in it. But it’s a decision that you’re making for the future of your family and not just yours. I think it’s really nice that you shared your story so you can help others decide better.

    02 . Jan . 2018
  8. Di Hickman

    One of my friends recently had this done and it was barely even a second thought, she had been 100% happy with her decision. I admit I wish I’d had it done years ago.

    02 . Jan . 2018
  9. Kate

    I can imagine what a tough decision that was for you. I considered having the procedure done after the birth of my second baby, but ultimately decided against it; I just wasn’t 100% sure. I’m sure I’ll consider it again if we have another baby.

    02 . Jan . 2018
  10. Maria

    So appreciative that you shared such a serious and heartfelt post with us. Sending your beautiful family much love, and sending you strength and support <3

    02 . Jan . 2018
  11. Cindy Ingalls

    Very good advice. I think as women when we see a baby we all have second thoughts.

    02 . Jan . 2018

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